You’re getting married! You’re probably very busy arranging the location, the invitations and already thinking hard about which dress you want... But have you already thought about the fact that you also need a best man and maid of honour! Without them, you cannot officially get married, and in case you lose your marriage certificate, they can confirm that they were at the wedding and that you’re really married. So it’s important! You really want to ask someone for this who is reliable and means a lot to you. With a special task comes a special way of asking them to fulfil their role. But how do you ask a best man or maid of honour? Below, we’ve listed a few original ways to ask your best man or maid of honour!
With something sweet
An original but easy way to propose marriage to your best man or maid of honour is with something sweet! Have a cake made at the bakery with the text "Dear... will you be my best man (or maid of honour)?". The great thing about this is that you can personalise the cake so that it suits them perfectly! Are you a good baker or do you not want to spend too much money as the wedding is already so expensive? Of course, you can also do it yourself! Bake a cake that you’re sure your best man or maid of honour will like, decorate it with your message, and ta da! Is a cake just a step too far? You can always choose to bake biscuits and put your question on them. A super personal and original way to ask your best man or maid of honour!
With cards
You can also send a nice card to your future best man or maid of honour. Online, you can find a lot of cards on which you can put your own personal message, or personalise them with your own photos! Search on Google for 'ask your best man' or ‘ask your maid of honour’, and you’ll find plenty of good examples. Do you want to make the card extra special? Buy a card yourself and write a handwritten message. Are you very creative? Then you can also choose to make your own card! And if you really want to do something out of the box with it, send them a message in a bottle. Buy a glass bottle and put a paper with your card in it. No one can resist that!
With a gift
Gifts; who doesn't like to receive them? Your best man or maid of honour is sure to love it! Giving gifts is also a lot of fun... so it’s a perfect combination to give your best man or maid of honour a gift. Does your best man or maid of honour like jewellery? Then having a piece of jewellery engraved with the question is a nice idea. Make sure you choose something your best man or maid of honour really likes and keep the engraving subtle. Are they not into jewellery but would you like to have something printed? An item of clothing or something else with text is also a nice 'do you want to be my best man or maid of honour’ gift! Socks, a T-shirt, or a mug with the question will definitely surprise them too! You can also create your own surprise package with everything they need to be a best man or maid honour. An original and unique best man or maid of honour box! Think of handkerchiefs, a nice pen to sign with at the wedding, and some nice care products so your best man or a maid of honour can shine next to the happy couple.
Asking the best man
For women, we can often come up with nice little things, but gifts for men are more difficult. But don't worry, we also have great gift ideas for asking your best man! Give your best man a tie printed with your question! Whether he will actually wear the tie is another question... but it’s a great idea! Does your best man like a good drink? Then you can also create your own label for a liquor bottle, to give him something he really uses! A variation on the surprise package for men can be filled with cigars, whisky, or beer. Of course, having a shirt of his favourite football team printed with the question is also a good move.
Final tips
A final tip, or rather some advice. Are you sure your candidate really wants to be the best man or maid of honour? It can be really frustrating if you come up with a grand gesture for the question, but the person ends up saying no. In case of doubt, you can of course always just ask them straight up! The question itself is already a great honour, so a gift or card is not really necessary. With a special way of asking, you also make it more difficult for your best man or maid of honour to say no... So whether you choose a special way or a simple question, think about it carefully. And most importantly, have some fun along the way!